To the woman that will marry my brother:
I will admit it now since I don’t often admit it. I love my brother with all my heart. ( Yes you read that right 🙂 … The day he showed up, my life changed forever, then I thought for the bad, but now I realize for the good. Being several years apart, we never were the closest growing up. I was always the older bossy one, and he either followed along or tattle-taled on me for being bossy. But watching him grow up into the man he has become I have learned some things about my brother. Some things that will impact your life. Some things that I am so sure you already know, but I just wanted to say. Watching your love story develop has been something I have enjoyed far beyond what you will ever know. It is so obvious that you were created just for him. I thank God daily for his plan in creating you to fulfill the role of my brother’s wife. I just wanted you to know how much I love you, and how excited we are to welcome you into the family. Whether he knows it or not… I’m one of his biggest fans. 🙂
I truly believe that just as Eve was created from the rib of Adam that the Lord hand picks mates for his children. Sometimes out of our own blindsightedness and impatience we end up with someone else, but when you see two people who fit together so perfectly, who love the Lord, and who support and lift up each others weaknesses, you know that God had a purpose in creating those two for each other.
My brother is determined. When the deck has been stacked against him he has flourished. Hes never been exceptionally or naturally good at some things. Some things did not come easy for him as a child but his strong work ethic was born out of adversity. He had to work ten times harder to be as good as some around him. His attitude when things get difficult is to work even harder. He always puts forth his best effort and even a little more. He has never been lazy and i know that he will provide for you to the best of his ability. My brother will do anything he can to help someone he knows needs it. Often to the point of overexerting himself but yet he doesn’t complain.
My brother is loyal. He will care for you. The things that over the years where I have seen his heart and the way he loves people amazes me. He was always a very loving and caring child with a big heart. His heart was and still is tender, and those who mean something to him know it. Don’t get me wrong, he is a man’s man, and doesn’t often show his feelings, but when he loves someone he is not afraid to say it.
My brother is protective. He will protect you to the ends of the earth. There were times where I never really thought he liked me, but I knew he always had my back. He will stand beside you through thick and thin, and will love you with the forever kind of love. I can see it in his eyes when he looks at you, that forever kind of love is already there and it will only grow as he watches you become even more the woman that God has planned for you to be and as you grow old together.
You, sweet friend, are a beautiful girl both inside an out, and as I sit here and think about the two of you I could not have handpicked a girl more perfect for my bother, Your love for the Lord and those around you, your patient and quiet spirit, your sweet smile, the way you fit right into our crazy family, your beautiful heart, and loving and compassionate ways. Your ever willingness to help, and your smile that lights up a room. You are going to make an amazing wife for my brother and a wonderful mom one day.
Things between him and I have not ever been perfect, they have always been more distant than I think both of us would like and they have never been consistent, but I know without a shadow of a doubt that if I needed him, he would be there in a heartbeat, and I know those same qualities extend to you in a far greater way. My brother will treat you like the woman that you are, He will always want you to stand by his side, not behind him in a demeaning way and not in front of him in a way that shows he doesn’t seem to care and is expecting you to lead, but beside him where your ribs are connected by the Lord, you are under his arm for protection, and next to his heart that loves you.
I have watched him beam with pride as you have excelled in your career, being proud of the woman you have become, and the hard work you have put forth to achieve your goals. He will always stand behind you and push you to do greater things. He will be your biggest fan and he will do anything he can to help you achieve whatever you set your mind to.
You are family. You always will be, not an in-law, but a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter, a cousin. And it is our job as your family to stand behind you two as a couple, and support your marriage in love and prayer. Our family may not always act like others, but it is a family of love an support and no matter what challenges you face together, you will have a support system who love you both.
You were made for him. Enjoy this time as you prepare for your wedding. Take a breath and take time for each other. You guys will face trials and hardships, but with the foundation that you have built and trust in the Lord its nothing that you as a team will not be able to over come. Put the Lord first and each other second and nothing will be able to tear you apart, and no matter what, always kiss goodnight.
Here’s to the journey ahead of you with your best friend.
All My love and Support,
His Big Sister.